Don’t you like sex? 237 reasons to find a girlfriend (or a boyfriend ;)
WASHINGTON - After exhaustively compiling a list of the 237 reasons why people have sex, researchers found that young men and women get intimate for mostly the same motivations. It’s more about lust in the body than a love connection in the heart.
College-aged men and women agree on their top reasons for having sex — they were attracted to the person, they wanted to experience physical pleasure and “it feels good,” according to a peer-reviewed study in the August edition of Archives of Sexual Behavior. Twenty of the top 25 reasons given for having sex were the same for men and women.
Expressing love and showing affection were in the top 10 for both men and women, but they did take a back seat to the clear No. 1: “I was attracted to the person.”
Researchers at the University of Texas spent five years and their own money to study the overlooked why behind sex while others were spending their time on the how.
“It’s refuted a lot of gender stereotypes … that men only want sex for the physical pleasure and women want love,” said University of Texas clinical psychology professor Cindy Meston, the study’s co-author. “That’s not what I came up with in my findings.”
Forget thinking that men are from Mars and women from Venus, “the more we look, the more we find similarity,” said Dr. Irwin Goldstein, director of sexual medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego. Goldstein, who wasn’t part of Meston’s study, said the Texas research made a lot of sense and adds to growing evidence that the vaunted differences in the genders may only be among people with sexual problems.
Meston and colleague David Buss first questioned 444 men and women — ranging in age from 17 to 52 — to come up with a list of 237 distinct reasons people have sex. They ranged from “It’s fun” which men ranked fourth and women ranked eighth to “I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease” which ranked on the bottom by women.
Once they came up with that long list, Meston and Buss asked 1,549 college students taking psychology classes to rank the reasons on a one-to-five scale on how they applied to their experiences.
“None of the gender differences are all that great,” Meston said. “Men were more likely to be opportunistic towards having sex, so if sex were there and available they would jump on it, somewhat more so than women. Women were more likely to have sex because they felt they needed to please their partner.”
But this is among college students, when Meston conceded “hormones run rampant.” She predicted huge differences when older groups of people are studied.
Since her study came out Tuesday, people are coming up with new reasons to have sex.
“Originally, I thought that we exhaustively compiled the list, but now I found that there should be some added,” Meston said.
Why Humans Have Sex
Cindy M. Meston . David M. Buss
Abstract: Historically, the reasons people have sex have
been assumed to be few in number and simple in nature–to
reproduce, to experience pleasure, or to relieve sexual
tension. Several theoretical perspectives suggest that motives
for engaging in sexual intercourse may be larger in
number and psychologically complex in nature. Study 1
used a nomination procedure that identified 237 expressed
reasons for having sex, ranging from the mundane (e.g., ‘‘I
wanted to experience physical pleasure’’) to the spiritual
(e.g., ‘‘I wanted to get closer to God’’), from altruistic (e.g.,
‘‘I wanted the person to feel good about himself/herself’’)
to vengeful (e.g., ‘‘I wanted to get back at my partner for
having cheated on me’’). Study 2 asked participants
(N = 1,549) to evaluate the degree to which each of the 237
reasons had led them to have sexual intercourse. Factor
analyses yielded four large factors and 13 subfactors,
producing a hierarchical taxonomy. The Physical reasons
subfactors included Stress Reduction, Pleasure, Physical
Desirability, and Experience Seeking. The Goal Attainment
subfactors included Resources, Social Status, Revenge, and
Utilitarian. The Emotional subfactors included Love and
Commitment and Expression. The three Insecurity subfactors
included Self-Esteem Boost, Duty/Pressure, and Mate
Guarding. Significant gender differences supported several
previously advanced theories. Individual differences in
expressed reasons for having sex were coherently linked
with personality traits and with individual differences in
sexual strategies. Discussion focused on the complexity of
sexual motivation and directions for future research.
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